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“You’re in your 20s now, when are you getting married? , ” No one is gonna marry an old woman if you don’t marry now.”, “You should get married soon, or you won’t be able to have children.” have been common questions and statements asked and said to women when they are still unmarried though they are already in their 20s.

Marriage has still been a social pressure for some women, especially in a country I am living in, which I do not wish to mention here. If you are a woman, and you are experiencing this, this article is for you. However, I am not opposed to early or late marriage. I only would like to help those who are in this marriage dilemma to be able to cope with it.

Audrey Hepburn was a British actress and humanitarian, recognised as both a film and fashion icon, she was ranked by the American Film Institute as the third-greatest female screen legend from the Golden Age of Hollywood, and was inducted into the International Best Dressed List Hall of Fame.

“If I get married, I want to be very married.”
Audrey Hepburn

Marriage is a part of life, so it should not be a life condition. We do not have to be married to be happy, succeed, to be recognized, or to be called a grateful child; in my country, getting married is considered as one of the ways to express gratitude to your parents because it brings honor to the family; in our culture, living in a relationship is yet widely acceptable.

We all have seen that there are people, both ordinary and famous ones, who still find themselves unhappy after their marriage and then decide to get divorced. There are also people who still bother their parents after they are married with children. At the same time, there are single people who still manage to be happy, succeed, and support their parents financially.

This means one’s happiness and success cannot be determined by one same factor depending on what that individual values and prioritizes. Thus, marriage doesn’t guarantee that either. Everyone lives their life differently. We all have good and bad times.

Life partner is very different from a game or work partner. You only need a competent game or work partner temporarily to help you succeed in the game or work. Also, if you find your partner isn’t the right one, you can change as many times as you want without much problem. On the contrary, a life partner is someone with whom you will need to spend the rest of your life to build a happy family together. When you meet the right one, your life is like brilliantly-blooming flowers in the garden. However, if you meet the wrong, your life is like withering flowers.

To answer the question of when one should get married, the answer is there is no exact same rule for when everyone to get married. The best answer could be “Marry when you are ready.”

  • Marry when you really find your true life partner who you trust that you can hold this person’s hand for the rest of your life to build a happy family with.
  • Marry when you’re ready in terms of emotion, finance and circumstance.

Hence, don’t marry:

  • if you have not found your right man or woman.
  • if you’re not ready.
  • just because you’re afraid no one will marry you when you look older.
  • just because everyone around you is already married.
  • just because you’re worried about what your neighbors say about you.

Your value and happiness do not depend on your marital status and nor others’ mouth.

Never rely your happiness on anyone’s mouth.

Your life goal is not just to get married because you can achieve more than that in life.

Live the life you wish to have based on your life principles as long as it does no harm to others. You can get married or stay single if you want to.

You are the only inventor of your own life.

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